I wish I didn’t have to tell you this, but the truth is, there will be times in your career where you will get disappointed at work. You will get looked over for that promotion; someone will throw you under the bus, and you will have something happen that will make you feel disappointed.
Feeling disappointed is understandable. But it’s not the place where you want to hang out for too long. So, here are “Four Strategies to Help You Deal with Being Disappointed at Work.” These strategies will help you determine how you want to “show up” when you are feeling a bit disappointed at work and perhaps in your life too.
Acknowledge, Validate, and Accept
Take some time to sit with the disappointment. It’s okay. You are allowed to feel crappy and hurt about it. Let it sting for a while! After you have had some time to acknowledge what happened, you are then ready to move on to validate why are you disappointed. For example, let’s say you were counting on that new job opportunity because it gave you a chance to lead and they went with someone else. Validate why that opportunity was so important to you. What was at stake? What did that new job position mean for you? And when you are ready, you will accept what happened, recognize how important an opportunity like that is for you, and begin to start a new opportunity search.
Rid Yourself of Judgment and Guilt
Years ago, I was disappointed about an event early on in my career. A good friend of mine, who spent many years in the corporate space told me, “They just made a business decision. It wasn’t personal.” I never forgot that conversation or experience. He was right. And when I was able to hear that and believe it, I was able to free myself from the judgment and guilt of being disappointed. Look, it is not going to do you any good to beat yourself up and “should” all over yourself. Understand what you had control over in the situation and get ready to take some action.
Minimize the Drama
PLEASE leave the drama for the stage! No one likes a “Drama Queen.” Be disappointed, but don’t stir the pot and make things worse. I have never seen anyone’s professional reputation positively grow because they lived in the drama. Remember, this is an opportunity for how you want to “show up” and be authentically you. Again, it’s okay to be disappointed. Just don’t live in the drama.
Listen, Lean In, and Step Forward
I have said this on so many occasions when we are ready to make a big move in our career. Being disappointed is part of the process but when you take a moment to truly “Listen, Lean In, and Step Forward,” what do you learn? What do you learn about yourself that will help you create that next advancement opportunity? When we can accept the disappointment, we are ready to learn and grow. And in time, you will find that those disappointments, are often the most significant learning moments of your career and be thankful for them.